Falling in love is one of the most beautiful feelings in the world, and people should be able to experience it without worrying about things such as discrimination, stigma or norms that society expects us to meet. Disabled dating can be just as thrilling and exciting if a few things are taken into consideration that we present today.
Step #1: Think Accessibility
In order for disabled dating to be amazing, you have to give accessibility some serious thought. Persons in wheelchairs need to be able to enter a bar or restaurant easily, and if there are going to be drinks involved, there has to be a washroom for the disabled. This may be obvious, but a lot of the times people dating disabled individuals don’t remember to take these things into account, especially if they’ve never dated a disabled person before, which can lead to awkward situations nobody wants on their hands. Disabled singles love their independence just like anyone else, the only difference being they have to work a little harder to achieve it. When it comes to dating, they don’t need a caretaker to take their wheelchair, and carry it across the street or hold them in the bathroom. They want to do as many things themselves as possible, and their dates should keep that in mind.
Step #2: Don’t Think Appearance
Ignorance is one of the disabled people’s biggest enemies, as in most cases their physical disability has absolutely nothing to do with their mental capacity. Think Stephen Hawking, one of the most influential physicist in the world or Nick Vujicic, a motivational speaker from Australia. Both are married with children even though they are physically severely disabled. The point is that it is only their appearance that makes them different from anybody else, and nobody should be discriminated against because of how they look. Although dating for the disabled can be challenging, it’s far from impossible, especially when two people are right for each other, and a superficial thing such as appearance should not stand in the way.
Step #3: Think Romantic Availability
Mainstream media doesn’t necessarily portray disabled people as romantically available, and as a result able-bodied individuals often don’t even consider dating someone with a disability. Most people have no idea what it’s like to be disabled, which is why they avoid contact with disabled individuals altogether. If you’re falling for someone with a disability, it’s only natural that you’re wondering how that person gets around or how you could go places together. Disabled dating sites are doing their fair share of exposing disabled people as romantically available, but there is still a lot to be done in the media, mainly stop presenting disabled individuals as asexual or not beautiful. Your disabled date has a lot to offer, but we need the general public to come around, and start recognizing disabled singles as people who are the dating and marrying kind.