You met a man and he is perfect for you. There is just that one tiny problem – he has a late wife. Before you jump into a relationship, ask yourself whether you are ready for dating a widower. Keep in mind that it won’t be a walk in the park. Some days will be good, some days will be bad. If you are considering going out with a widower, read the list bellow and see if you can deal with these facts.
Keep your eyes open for shrines
Maybe their marriage wasn’t at all that perfect, but the moment she died, she became a saint. Every dispute they had has been forgotten, her flaws have been swept under a rug and her virtues have been over exaggerated. Not all widowers do this, but it is good to know. These men miss their spouse so much that they build a shrine to remember her. If you see one of these, pack your bags. He still isn’t over his wife and there is no room for you there.
Marriage isn’t on the table
For many widows and widowers dating is an option, but some of them have decided not to get married ever again. If you are still young and you want to get married and have a family, talk to your potential partner about this. If you are not on the same page, it is better to find out sooner than later.
Holidays may be odd
Holidays, birthdays and anniversaries may be uncomfortable and weird. You may or may not receive a warm reception from other members of his family, but don’t take it personal. On the other hand, maybe he even won’t want to celebrate the holiday with you.
Life as they know it is over, and they have to start over. They may move, get a new job, take up a new hobby, lose weight or travel. They are changing their life and maybe they do not want to lock themselves in a new relationship.
Don’t assume you know how he feels, how he will act, think, react or love. You haven’t walked a mile in his shoes, so you have no idea how he feels. Keep your mind open and don’t expect anything. Lower your expectations and you won’t get hurt.